A basic principle to live by is to open your heart to 'what is', instead of insisting that life be a certain way. This idea is important because much of our internal strugle stems from our desire to control life, to insist that it be different than it actually is. But life isn't always (or even rarely is) the way we would like it to be - it is simply the way it is. The more we live for the moment, the greater will be our peace of mind. When we have preconceived ideas about the way life should be, they interfere with our opportunity to enjoy or learn from the present moment. This prevents us from honoring what we are or will go through, which may be an opportunity for great awakening. Rather than reacting to someone complaining or your partners disaproval, try opening your heart and accepting the moment for what it is. Make it okay that they aren't acting exactly the way you would like them to. Or if there's a guy your hoping to hit it off with ends up rejecting your advancement, see if you can say to yourself, 'Ah, rejection. He is obviously not my soul mate. when the time is right we'll meet, so I must keep trying.' You open your heart in these ways, not to pretend that you enjoy complaints, dissaproval, or failure, but to transcend them - to make it all right with you that life isn't performing the way you planned. Your perspective will deepen. When you fight that which you struggle with, life can be a battle. But when you surrender to the moment, accept what is and make it okay with you, more peacful feelings will begin to emerge. Live life for what it is, don't make excuses for anything you want to try. Remember this.... 'When we argue for our limitations... they become ours'! Don't be so critical, enjoy differences of all kind. Open your heart and mind and soon your life will be filled with enlightenment
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